American school children are often required to read the Scarlet Letter Novel as an example of Puritan anti-sex extremism. Most school children are taught that the Puritans started Thanksgiving, hated sex, and falsely killed witches at the Salem Witch trials. The Big State has no interest in glorifying or giving a balanced view of the days when America was not one big Debt Plantation. In the novel, a single mother is forced to wear a Scarlet Letter to publicly humiliate her for having a baby out-of-wedlock.
The Puritans of the 1600’s were not anti-sex, they were anti-child abuse.
It was considered child abuse to bring a child into this world without an identified father who was physically and financially responsible for the child. In New England during the 1600’s famine, disease, hard manual farming, and Indian attacks were all very real issues. Bringing a child into this environment without an identified father put a huge burden on relatives and neighbors and hurt the future life prospects of the child. Thus, it was shameful to have a baby out-of-wedlock. In 2013, due to Uncle Sam’s subsidy of out-of-wedlock births, extensive welfare, and Hollywood and the left’s glorification of sex outside of marriage, there is very little shame bringing a child into the world without a committed father.
While society is now far removed from the issues of the 1600s, the importance of intact healthy marriages has not diminished as evidence by numerous studies.
Various forms of birth control were available in the United States long before the birth control pill was introduced. However, the pill, abortion, and the 1960’s sexual revolution dramatically changed the marriage landscape in a few short years. The Left promised sex without consequence, women’s liberation, a reduction in out-of-wedlock births, less crime, and wealthier inner cities. Instead, America experience skyrocketing divorce and out-of-wedlock births, increased abuse, more inner city crime, and increased poverty.
As early as 1975, Dir. Swartz of Crittendon in Baltimore noted, as she served single mothers, how birth control pills and abortion were not lowering the rate of out-of-wedlock births.
“What we are seeing happening, I think is the creation of as much as two-thirds of tomorrow’s generation that has nothing going for it. Many will be raised indifferently, or brutally. Many will be nutritionally and medically deprived. Many will lack the benefit of a father, without conscience, without meaningful relationships, without impulse control and mostly violent.” She also asked “How can we have much hope?”
Let’s look at the single parenting statistics from the numerous studies.
University of California – Santa Barbara 1996: Children raised without fathers are more than twice as likely to become juvenile delinquents or single mothers.
University of Pennsylvania and Princeton University 2004: Young men raised without fathers are twice as likely to end up in jail … even when all other factors are taken into account such as race, income, parent education, and urban residence.
National Institute of Justice 1998: 63% of suicides are from fatherless homes, 85% of children exhibiting behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes, 71% of high school dropouts are from fatherless homes, 70% of juvenile delinquents are from fatherless homes.
These statistics are sad and overwhelming and are just a small sample of the large secular studies that have been conducted on the American Family.
Statistically broken homes equal broken children.
It is right to try to encourage single moms while offering hope and support. While this is the secular section of the book: Christians are instructed that “True Religion” is not just a pair of jeans – “it is to look after the fatherless” James 1:27.
In recent years more fathers are gaining sole custody of their children after divorce. New research shows that children in these homes statistically do poorly as well. Having biological mothers raise their children is important.
Children living with just their father or their father and his girlfriend are more likely to abuse drugs and be physically abused .
A lot young people will say these statistics do not apply to them. “I can live with my boyfriend and see how things work out,” “I’m on birth control,” “The guy I’m with is super nice, he’d never leave me if I got pregnant,” “I’ll get married when I get serious about a family.” If any of these statements reflect your thoughts and you think that none of the awful social statistics will apply to your situation, then please consider the following. There is a whole field of study called “Illusory Superiority.” It reveals how the majority of people think they are above average, which of course is statistically impossible. Statistics do apply to you and you are taking a big risk when you fail to heed warnings.
Before dismissing these statistics as not applying to your situation, consider these humorous statistics: 87% of Stanford MBA students considered themselves be above the average of their peers; 68% of faculty at the University of Nebraska considered themselves to be in the top 25% of teaching ability; 93% of US Student drivers thought of themselves to be above average! So in other words –
Don’t let a call from the police about your son or daughter be the first indication that your broken home is indeed a family and societal problem.