This is the second of three sections in The Ring of Fire. It is called the “Secular Section” because it examines marriage through policy, stats, culture, and facts. The third section will look at marriage within the context of Christianity.
I’m in Barcelona, Spain listening to some American music on the Sixt rental car radio – funny how I can listen to classic American songs in Spain and classic Spanish songs in California.
“Sometimes it’s hard to be a woman,
givin’ all your love to just one man
You’ll have bad times, and he’ll have good times –
doing things that you don’t understand
But if you love him you’ll forgive him,
even though he’s hard to understand
And if you love him, oh be proud of him,
cause after all he’s just a man”
Tammy Wynette – Stand by your Man
Almost all the elements for a great marriage are wrapped up into this one little song. Unconditional Love, Commitment, Forgiveness, Respect, Romantic Love, and Acceptance. Now for a famous quote from Hillary Clinton “I’m no Tammy Wynette” — And we ask Wynotte?
“Ever since the world began its been that way for men,
and women were created to make love their destiny –
then why should true love be so complicated –
If you want him to be always by your side,
take his hand tonight and swallow your foolish pride –
tell him that you never gonna leave him,
tell him that you are always gonna love him –
tell him, tell him, tell him …”
The Exciters – Tell Him
There are more elements of a great relationship in this one – Uncomplicated, Unreserved, and Committed. My wife is awesome because she lives these words.
We hear about Gay marriage and re-defining marriage, Polygamy, and Traditional marriage. But what really is marriage? There are two more sections in this book on marriage – a Secular section and following, a Christian section. The purpose of this section is to define what marriage is in a secular sense as opposed to so much nonsense coming from the media, politicians, and even many in the Church.
Some of the low spots in my marriage came after a few goofy marriage books were read. “You need to communicate more, you need to plan for this, and you need to do that.” Great! Set the expectations high and start judging all the actions in the marriage – let’s see how that works out when she’s PMSing and the boss is pushing him hard for project completion. While there are many questionable books there are a few I can recommend. The Bible and The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura are excellent.
Marriage is a natural inherent right. It’s just like the right to life, liberty and property.
A government or a church cannot redefine marriage or they delegitimize themselves – more on this later. In this section you’ll learn about what traditional marriage was prior to 1910 from a Western viewpoint.