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Tip 18 | Be Yourselves and Don’t Worry

“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24

Let the Lord build your home. Together establish your new identity and guidelines.

Bringing our first daughter home from the hospital after Jennifer gave birth was one of the most amazing events of my life. Never before had I been entrusted so completely with the life of another human being  and they just let us take her home! Jen and I just stared into the crib for the longest time as the weight of our new responsibility bore down.

In the Socialist Republic of California, we can’t drive without a seat belt, can’t make a small fire without a permit, can’t start a business without a license, can’t own a chicken in my community, can’t build a structure over 8 feet without a permit, can’t have a glass of wine before 21, can’t buy a hand gun without a waiting period, can’t put in a laboratory fume hood without permits and inspections, and can’t be trusted with more than 50% of our income but they haven’t taken the right to parenting away yet.

Government is becoming more intrusive in the family and more suspicious of parents. It has becoming increasingly awkward to deal with a child’s bratty behavior in public. Doctors are offering pills for normal boy behavior. Many folks who have never raised children will offer condescending advice on how you should parent. As young parents we even had our oldest daughter’s first grade teacher tell us that she needed to be on Ritalin as all her children were. Later in the parent teacher conference we found out that one of her children was in prison. Remember it is always good to listen to everyone. Even so, taking advice from those that have been successful, and a grain of salt from those who have not is a better strategy.

Psalms 127 is a great chapter in the Bible about the family.

Psalms 127 Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.

Only a home built by the Lord is safe. A strategy of posting “watchmen” which is the modern equivalent of censoring the internet and other poor influences, preventing bad relationships through home schooling, the right church, etc. or in other words sin prevention will fail unless the Lord builds the house. Your children need the Gospel, a purpose, and a reason for the faith that lies within them. The proper strategy is let the Lord build the house as expressed in Daniel and Nehemiah, Romans 12, Hebrews 11, I Corinthians 13, James 1.

It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.

Now relax, when the Lord builds your home – sleep well. How can you say you have faith when you spend every night stressing out? We have four daughters and so I know kids can be stressful, but

“Your ticket to a better night’s sleep” might be a Sleep Train mattress but letting the Lord build your home is a better bet.

Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

Children are a reward and a purpose

As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.

Children on fire for God speaking with the enemy in the gate is the surest sign of a successful marriage. Nothing makes my heart happier than to see my daughters fighting for pro-life and liberty causes, pushing back against socialist teaching and their re-writes of history, and rejecting the Hollywood and Madison Ave stereotypes, strong Proverbs 31 women starting God-centered families.

What is the vision for your marriage, your family?

Now sleep well.

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